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70 sex questions to ask your partner, from the dirty to the flirty

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Whether you’re in the first flushes of a relationship, are still just texting, or know each other inside out, it’s always fun to play a little question game.

Whether it’s ‘would you rather’ or ‘have you ever’, there are likely still things about your partner that you don’t know, and using a game is a great way to find out.

Particularly if you’ve been physically separated during the pandemic, asking questions to your boyfriend or girlfriend can help you connect with them on a deeper level, and start off conversations that might not have happened without a little prompt.

If you want to find out more about your partner’s sexual desires and fantasies, we’ve got a selection of questions and conversation starters that you can use at any time.

Even if not all of the questions apply to you or your partner or are appropriate for your relationship, you can pick and choose to get them having fun. Some are more on the flirty, suggestive side, while others are somewhat risque.

  1. What’s your dirtiest sexual fantasy?
  2. How many people have you slept with?
  3. Where’s the weirdest place you’ve had sex?
  4. What’s your favourite part of my body?
  5. Have you ever had anal sex?
  6. If you could choose what I was wearing right now, what would you choose?
  7. Where on your body is your favourite place to be touched?
  8. When was the last time you had a dirty dream?
  9. If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?
  10. When did you first have sex?
  11. What’s the best sex you’ve ever had?
  12. What’s your favourite position?
  13. Have you ever been caught having sex?
  14. Do you watch porn?
  15. What kind of porn do you watch?
  16. How often do you masturbate?
  17. Name a sex position you’d like to try
  18. Do you prefer to give or receive?
  19. What was your best orgasm ever?
  20. Have you ever been skinny dipping?
  21. Have you ever slept with someone you work with?
  22. If we were out for dinner and I said I wanted to have sex right now, what would you do?
  23. Have you ever sent nudes of yourself?
  24. If you could sleep with any celebrity, who would it be?
  25. Would you/have you had group sex?
  26. What’s the most sex you’ve had in a day?
  27. Are you loud or quiet during sex?
  28. Have you ever tried using food during foreplay?
  29. Have you ever made a sex tape?
  30. What’s the first thing that sexually attracts you to someone?
  31. Would you say you have any fetishes?
  32. When it comes to BDSM, how far have you gone/would go?
  33. What’s your favourite toy?
  34. Do you ever read erotic fiction?
  35. Have you joined the mile high club?
  36. Do you think you could take off my underwear with no hands?
  37. Would you say you’re kinky?
  38. Do you enjoy shower sex?
  39. Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever masturbated?
  40. Do you like to be spanked?
  41. What was your most embarrassing sexual experience?
  42. Have you ever fantasised about someone else during sex?
  43. If I ever caught you masturbating, would you stop or would you finish?
  44. Have you ever had an inappropriate crush?
  45. Have you ever cried or fallen asleep during sex?
  46. Do you prefer eye contact or not during sex?
  47. Do you like to kiss during sex?
  48. Do you get tired after sex?
  49. How many positions do you think you’ve tried?
  50. What’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sex?
  51. How high is your sex drive?
  52. What’s a surefire way to turn you on?
  53. Sex with lights on or lights off?
  54. Do you like dirty talk?
  55. Have you had sex in a car?
  56. Do you prefer to take control or be submissive?
  57. Do you prefer one night stands or longer-term sexual partners?
  58. Do you prefer to be on top or bottom?
  59. What would you like to do more of in bed?
  60. What’s your favourite time of day to have sex?
  61. Rough or romantic?
  62. Quickie or marathon session?
  63. What’s your favourite part of foreplay?
  64. Would you dress up for me in bed?
  65. What’s your favourite place to be kissed?
  66. Do you like sexting?
  67. What’s the best thing about our sex life?
  68. What’s the shortest time it’s ever taken for you to have an orgasm?
  69. And the longest?
  70. How would you make me have an orgasm?

Whether it's to turn them on or just have a bit of fun, these sex questions are great to ask your partner.

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1. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had?

2. Of the people in this room, who do you most want to make out with?

3. What’s the first thing you’d do if you woke up one day and you were the opposite sex?

4. What sexual activity do you consider totally off limits?

5. Of the people in this room, who do you consider the sluttiest?

6. What’s the most embarrassing thing your parents have caught you doing?

7. What’s the biggest romantic fail you’ve ever experienced?

8. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done when you were alone?

9. Of the people in this room, who would you feel most comfortable with naked?

10. What’s the biggest secret you’ve ever kept from your parents?

11. What’s the biggest lie you’ve ever told without getting caught?

12. Of the people in this room, who do you most want to switch lives with and why?

13. What do you like most and least about your own appearance?

14. What do you like most and least about your personality?

15. If you could erase one past experience, what would it be?

16. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done to attract a crush?

17. When’s the last time you were flat-out rejected and how did you handle it?

18. What’s your biggest sexual fear?

19. Of the people in this room, who do you disagree with most frequently?

20. What’s your favorite go-to move for getting attention from the opposite sex?

21. What would you change about your life if you could?

22. What’s the most flirtatious thing you’ve ever done?

23. If you could make one wish right this second, what would it be?

24. At what age did you first start having sexy thoughts and what prompted them?

25. What three adjectives best describe your vagina/penis?

26. What does the perfect male/female body look like (from head to toe and everything in between) in your opinion?

27. How many people can someone sleep with before you secretly judge them for their “number”?

28. What’s the one thing you’d do in bed with someone if you had no inhibitions whatsoever?

29. What’s sexual milestone has been most memorable for you so far?

30. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done in front of the mirror?

31. At what age did you first inspect your private parts and how did you feel about them?

32. What would you guess your parents’ favorite sexual position is, and why?

33. What did you think about the first (or last) time you masturbated?

34. What’s the most surprising thing that’s ever turned you on?

35. What’s the grossest thing that’s come out of your body?

36. What’s the most disgusting thing you’ve ever done?

37. What’s the most disturbing fantasy or dream you’ve ever had?

38. What’s the most awkward experience you’ve had with a crush?

39. What’s the meanest thing you’ve ever said to someone?

40. What’s the cruelest thing you’ve ever done to a friend?

41. What time of day do you feel most aroused and what do you usually do about it?

42. What’s the most childish thing you still do?

43. How do you really feel about anal sex?

44. What’s your favorite sex toy (hypothetically, or from experience)?

45. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve ever made in bed?

46. How old were you when your parents sat you down for “the talk” and what did they say (or not say) about “the birds and the bees”?

47. What’s the biggest dating disappointment you’ve experienced so far?

48. Do you ever catch yourself thinking about doing it with someone of the same sex?

49. What’s the most number of times you’ve ever masturbated within one week?

50. How far would you go to land the guy or girl of your dreams?

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